Red Flags

Secrets, secrets, are no fun, secrets they hurt everyone.

Secrecy.

I’m not talking about keeping a surprise birthday party as a secret.
I’m talking about when the person is constantly vague about where they’re going or with whom they are going with, etc.
– [account deleted]

Kissing during a break-up? Yeah, they’re getting back together. (And later, breaking up again.)

When they break up and get back together over and over.
– frozen-silver

*winky face*

When he stops sending emojis. That seems stupid to point out, but it had been all kissy faces and winks when we first started dating. Then he”needed space” and then the Emojis stopped and then the relationship stopped.
– StumbleKitty

“Yeah, that kiss was fine, but let me tell you about how Jason used to kiss me…”

Too much ex talk. It’s fine if they come up occasionally, but if you’ve been dating for a month and you know more about the ex than you know about the person, that’s a very bad sign.

If all the person’s exes were “crazy” or “losers”, then… likewise, that’s not a good indicator.
– michaelochurch

Counter-intuitive!

They don’t fight ever. From what I’ve seen it means there is a whole lot of stuff just brewing and will explode soon enough.
– joebone18974

Compromise is a lifehack.

Refusal to compromise. My brother and his first wife were both first-born, and had much younger siblings. They were used to being in charge. They never learned to compromise, and my brother won most of the arguments simply by being louder and more insistent.

At their wedding reception, one of the groomsmen and I were watching them argue over some petty thing, and the guy said, “I give them two years.” I replied, “No, they’re stubborn. They’ll make it to five.”

Five and half years later, she walked out on him.
– [account deleted]

This is just a cluster.

When she wanted kids and he didn’t and he also refused to use protection and they get pregnant! Also they argue pretty much all the time.

Married last year. I don’t see them lasting unfortunately.
– WowLookNoHands

Some boyfriends just hate it when you’re adorable…

I noticed when my last boyfriend was drifting because he’d get annoyed over small things. Like when I would tease him, he’d get really bugged instead of laugh with me. And we’re not talking anything crazy. Just like going up behind him and playing “guess who”.
– StumbleKitty

The truth is the truth, every time.

Any degree of gaslighting. If you try to convince me I said the opposite of what I said, agreed to something I emphatically did NOT agree to, etc., I’m done.
– LolliaSabina

Sorry cheaters, but you gotta be alone forever now.

If they were stolen away from someone else.
– [account deleted]

“Gotta petition the warden.”

“My gf/bf won’t let me do XYZ”

I give it six months after that, tops.
– PKMNtrainerKing